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Nov. 14th, 2025 03:50 amShe told Wren that her hair would fall out if she kept biting her nails! I’m not sure how to feel about this. On the one hand, I’m pissed my mother-in-law would lie to my daughter. On the other hand, it worked. Do I need to tell Wren the truth, or can my husband and I (at least for the time being) keep up the ruse?
—Something to Chew On
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Nov. 14th, 2025 01:08 amShe is the type of person who will always compliment you verbally, but you can often tell by her expression how she really feels. I described her as rather fake, but my brother said I am being unfair. He pointed out that I could be accused of being equally judgmental by holding against someone not their words and actions, but my own belief about what’s going on inside their head, whether or not it’s true. I had never thought of it that way.
My brother never seems to care about other people’s opinions. I’d like to try his mindset, which seems very freeing, but I don’t know how. It’s especially hard to embrace the idea that I’m supposed to just let it slide when I feel silently critiqued or when someone is only being nice to my face.
Am I oversensitive? Then what’s the right level of sensitivity? Any tips for me?
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Just One Thing (14 November 2025)
Nov. 14th, 2025 06:11 amComment with Just One Thing you've accomplished in the last 24 hours or so. It doesn't have to be a hard thing, or even a thing that you think is particularly awesome. Just a thing that you did.
Feel free to share more than one thing if you're feeling particularly accomplished! Extra credit: find someone in the comments and give them props for what they achieved!
Nothing is too big, too small, too strange or too cryptic. And in case you'd rather do this in private, anonymous comments are screened. I will only unscreen if you ask me to.
Go!
Mostly musical
Nov. 14th, 2025 03:08 pmI was looking for a Chinese idiom equivalent to “pie in the sky” and found 画饼充饥 (feeding hunger on a drawing of a cake) which is not quite the same but kind of related; I also found 天上掉馅饼, meat pies falling from the sky, which sounds related and actually means more like “serendipity” lol (in Japanese 棚から牡丹餅, botamochi cakes falling off the shelf, or tanabota for short. Do other languages have serendipity idioms which involve falling food items, I wonder?).
Jiang Dunhao song(s) of the post: 命名, one of his signature songs—I’m not actually wild about the chorus, too rock-vocal for me, but the verse and the last line raise the hairs on the back of my neck (in a good way). Warning for flashing lights! And for something completely different from the same singer, 又是艳阳天, an adorable duet with the Taiwanese singer Claire Kuo, over on the jazz end of pop. (*Because there are a lot of bilibili.com links here—if you’re not logged in it stops playback a minute in, but if you close the pop-up and hit play again the video goes on. I almost don’t notice at this point.)
Also Jiang Dunhao-related (I’m sorry, I’ve been this obsessed for a while now), I’ve been watching a program for young singers on which he is a mentor. I hate the competition part—why do people always do this with music—but I’ve found it very entertaining otherwise, the young singers are VERY fun. I’m pleased to notice that several of the twenty-odd women contestants are not just not c-ent standard skinny but well over on the plump side, including Niu Mengyao, who has a fantastic contralto, and the Chinese-Malaysian Vanessa Reynauld (莎莎 to her Chinese colleagues), who is all-round adorable with her slangy English-Chinese, as well as Zhang Jiayu with a pretty floaty soprano. Long Yuxun also has an amazing deep voice: a talented and sort of nerdily self-absorbed young man called Jing Shenghui fell in love with her voice at first hearing, grabbed her to form a group with (they all have to make groups of three or four people), and has basically been glued to her side ever since, while she treats him with a kind of amused, impatient fondness and everyone else ships them. (A lot of what makes this program interesting is seeing which singers end up working together. I was tickled, and confused as usual by censorship rules, that not only were two women telling each other “I’m in love with you and your voice!” but everyone else was commenting 嗑到了, I ship it.) Other interesting contestants include Yin Yuke, who seems to want to be the next Zhou Shen only much more deliberately androgynous, and the delightful twins Xie Yuxuan and Xie Yu’ang, who compete and perform as a single entity (I just realized that their names must come from the chengyu 气宇轩昂); then there’s Chen Yang, a rock singer listed as from the mainland on Baidu and from Taiwan on Wikipedia (I know which one I believe), who clearly has a strong personality to match her strong voice and, well, I don’t have the strongest gaydar but this lady’s style… (Some very short links: Niu Mengyao and Vanessa Reynauld, Zhang Jiayu and Yin Yuke, Long Yuxun and Jing Shenghui, Xie Yuxuan and Xie Yu’ang, Chen Yang)
Orchestra stuff. I survived the previous concert—there were some places where I wish I’d done better, but at least one prominent little twiddle which I got right for the very first time during the concert itself, giving me a Mizutani feeling a character from the baseball manga Ookiku Furikabutte who says to himself at one point during a game, wow, I’ve practiced this really hard and I can actually do it! wow!. The new program is movie music, mostly dead boring, but the Totoro suite is actually quite fun here and there (although I think I’ll be tired of it in six months). And I’ve always loved the Star Wars suite, it’s a symphony and a good one, with the accompanying images it calls up from the movies (although sadly it doesn’t contain the Mos Eisley cantina jazz piece). At our first rehearsal I was joined by a high school senior, son of one of the bass players, who was of course a much better player than me (Japanese high school bands are brutal), very solemn and big-eyed and polite; we’ll see if he stays around, knock wood.
Bits of assorted reading: Antony and Cleopatra with yaaurens and company, where I by no means did justice to Enobarbus but enjoyed him anyway (and decided to adopt Charmian’s “keep yourself within yourself” line when in danger of losing my temper). Some Margery Allingham mysteries, which are very weird; I did enjoy her sub-Wimsey detective’s interpretation of “seems like Sweet Fanny Adams to me” into “I am not very sanguine about this.”
With encouragement from everyone around here and qian in particular, I have been sending off the agent query letters for my original thing at the rate of one a day since around the beginning of the month; so far three polite rejections, not that I’m expecting anything else. Reminding myself that some of the best authors I know (personally and otherwise) are self-published. One good thing unrelated to results is that I was reminded of the one effective way I know to get an intimidating task done: break it down into the tiniest components possible and tell myself I’m just going to do one of them and I don’t have to worry about the rest yet. One little tiny subtask at a time is usually surprisingly manageable.
Composers riffing on B.A.C.H.: Bach himself (or maybe not, authorship is disputed, but it’s certainly good enough to be Bach), and Schumann. I love both of these pieces, so helpful of Herr Bach to have a name with half-tones in it.
Photos: Mostly from another historical-building tour with Y, at the Chourakukan in Kyoto, plus some autumn sweets and some nice skies.
Be safe and well.
this evening (a to-do list)
Nov. 14th, 2025 06:47 pm- read through story A and return to beta
- write story B from the zero draft I made yesterday ✅
- catch up on comments ✅
- catch up on email ✅
- political submission! *stabs things* ✅
- read ✅ (briefly)
- Yuletide canon review
- play with coloured pencils ✅
- change vacuum cleaner bag ✅
- make/eat dinner ✅
- early night ✅
I might manage four of those? The last two are non-negotiable.
ETA: Some of those check marks are from over the weekend. :-)
After today I'm ready to go harvest some grave dirt
Nov. 13th, 2025 11:29 pmI head to the BMV because they've cheaped out on the plastic and my handicap tag shattered like a porcelain tea cup kissing the floor. Getting a new one was easy. I went to the coffee shop but had so much b.s. to deal with I don't even get much writing done. At least CVS hasn't fucked up for once and as I'm getting my needles and pills, the BMV calls me to tell me they didn't give me all the paperwork and I need to come back.
They are SO lucky that they caught me before I was 25 miles away back at the school. I go back and the same woman waits on me. She blinks at me and seems unable to comprehend why I'm there (or that I was there before to the point I wonder what she's high on) Someone else walks over to save her and gives me the paperwork.
Now I'm nearly late racing to the university because the student who has stood me up FOUR times already with no explanation is supposed to be there on my day off to make up the lab exam. She shows and then I go into my meeting.
I haven't mentioned that there has been so much shit at work with fucked up schedules. This meeting is on fire. A couple of us got yelled at (me included) to calm down. But dudes you put two of my classes at the same time and you have 30 students (not including the 24 in my class) we can't even find a time for and you're telling me you haven't changed your major so it's OUR fault. Dudes this is the first time in SIX years you've taken both sections of A&P so don't give me that shit. You didn't look at the schedules we've given you. And please remember that we have to work around all the OTHER biology classes because we have two labs that can hold this many people and oh by the way the last time we had nursing, rad tech, ultrasound and resp therapy, sports and exercise ALL taking both sections of A&P we had a THIRD instructor. Me and DM are the only two left (and one of us is 72) you are killing us.
So in this one of the academic coaches is at my door. I put him off and he returns at the end with my research student who is 1 class short of graduation. We sit down with the biology coordinator and try to figure this out. The only solution? Me offering my online class so now I have two online classes, three face to face classes and two separate research students.
RIP my sanity and my free time (If you think I'm slow commenting now....)
I was SO looking forward to my youtooz monitor buddies of my boys (points down to top pairing) They took forever to ship and they're here Look they're cute here. ANNNNNDDDDD, they don't fit on my desk top monitor. They don't fit on my lap top monitor. WTF are they supposed to fit on? They're so top heavy. At this point I'm wondering can I make a little bar for them and sit them on stools? Way to piss away your money. I should have bought that sticker at the Monster Mash with a possum saying Breadwinner? Ha, I'm the bread loser.
This is everywhere right not. From your AO3 Works page, look at the tags and find the answers to these questions. (I think I saw this on
Current number of works on AO3: 887
1.Under what rating do you write most?
teen and up
2. What are your top 3 fandoms?
1. Prodigal Son
2. Fullmetal Alchemist
3. Buffy the Vampire Slayer & Hazbin Hotel tied
3. Which character do you write about most?
Malcolm Bright (Prodigal Son)
4. What are the 3 top pairings you've written?
Now THIS was a surprise to me.
1.Angel Dust/Husk (I go from no anthropomorphic characters because it’s so not my thing to this)
2.Roy Mustang/Riza Hawkeye (Fullmetal Alchemist)
3.Gil Arroyo/Jessica Whitly (Prodigal Son)
Wait, no one from Buffy or The Owl House?!?
5. What are the top 3 additional tags?
1 found family
2 emotional hurt/comfort
3 whump (okay it’s technically Malcolm Bright needs a hug but that is so fandom specific so I picked up number 4)
[Song] Zero by Naoki
Nov. 13th, 2025 10:05 pmVSynth(s) Featured: Gackpoid
Warnings: The lyrics are pretty steamy! The English ones are in the description.
Link: https://youtu.be/XRGfzTgg5zM?si=UcAWgPBatjF-36kP
Reccer’s Note: (While trying to figure out what I'm supposed to call this Vocaloid non-casually, I decided to just use what's on his box, which is Gackpoid. Interesting choice! But anyways,) This song is pretty old, 13 years old to be exact, but I only discovered it 3 months ago. I listened to it on loop all day and then forgot about it until trying to decide which, of all the vsynth songs I know, I should share today. I settled on this one because it was another Gakupo song that made me want to post in here :) And I think this song isn't so popular, so it'll be new to people. The drums, the electronic sounds, the incredibly dramatic piano, the way Gakupo almost always sounds a little strange... It's so nostalgic even if it's new to me. I think it hits all the notes of an edgy or "mature" Vocaloid song from years past.
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Nov. 13th, 2025 10:44 pmTo Embers We Return continues to be really good and I'm really loving Dragon Subjugation Incantation (both translations updated recently)!
My copy of The Beauty's Blade also arrived yesterday! When I'd checked the tracking number a few days ago the ETA was the 17th, so it was a nice surprise. It looks like it's been selling well from various retailers' best seller subgenre charts, so hopefully they'll be publisher interest in licensing more.
I've also started volume 1 of Thrice Married to a Salted Fish. I like it so far, but I feel like QJJ has spoiled me a bit w/r/t female characters in danmei novels.
SOTD: Kiiras, "Bang Bang"
Nov. 13th, 2025 09:33 pmI was watching a couple of YouTube videos tonight when I happened to notice a new song from Kiiras in the sidebar, released less than 30 minutes ago at that time (33 minutes ago as I write this). I had loved Kiiras' debut song, Kill Ma Bo$$, because who wouldn't love a K-pop take on country music, so I jumped in and listed to this one right away. I loved it, was the 249th person to click "Like," and then came right over here to share it with all of you.
ETA: I didn't notice this until A. pointed it out to me (which I was rather embarrassed by): Their name is the "Hangul-ization" of the English word "Killers."
Thursday Recs
Nov. 13th, 2025 08:50 pmDo you have a rec for this week? Just reply to this post with something queer or queer-adjacent (such as, soap made by a queer person that isn't necessarily queer themed) that you'd, well, recommend. Self-recs are welcome, as are recs for fandom-related content!
Or have you tried something that's been recced here? Do you have your own report to share about it? I'd love to hear about it!
Daily check-in
Nov. 13th, 2025 07:51 pmOpen to: Access List, detailed results viewable to: Access List, participants: 22
How are you doing?
I am OK
11 (50.0%)
I am not OK, but don't need help right now
11 (50.0%)
I could use some help
0 (0.0%)
How many other humans live with you?
I am living single
9 (40.9%)
One other person
9 (40.9%)
More than one other person
4 (18.2%)
Please, talk about how things are going for you in the comments, ask for advice or help if you need it, or just discuss whatever you feel like.











